Awareness of Your Own Needs
To be effective as a homeschooling parent you have to be in tune with your needs as well as the needs of your children. We often spend so much time figuring out what our children need or how they learn that we leave ourselves out of the equation. There is nothing wrong with taking care of your own needs.
When It Comes to School
You have figured out how your children learn but have you figured out how you best teach. Now there will always be the need to compromise because believe me if you are having any difficulties at all it is because this two things are not the same. But if you understand where you are coming from it is much easier to make the compromises necessary to make learning successful for everyone. Also you have to understand what type of planning and recording method works best for you. Do you need a quiet weekend to plan out your whole year? Do you enjoy a more relaxed record as you go method? Do you want to keep records on the computer or do you feel more comfortable having your plan written out on paper. Understanding what you need will reduce much of the stress of managing your homeschooling.
When It Comes to Life
Over the years I’ve seen different schools of thought come and go in the homeschool community. There have been times when moms where told that having “me” time was the essential of life. Other times the pendulum has swung the other way and homeschool moms have been made to feel guilty if they aren’t there 100% of the time for their children. Only you know what you need and the best way to meet those needs. Personally, I need to carve out a small chunk of time daily to relax and read. This doesn’t mean that if my children need me I won’t stop what I’m doing but I need time to recharge because while others find themselves energized with constant interaction I find myself feeling drained. Also, as my children got older and didn’t need my constant attention I found being able to get away for a weekend without them either at a homeschool convention or retreat essential to my well-being. I am very blessed with a wonderful husband is has always recognized my need and has made sure to provide those opportunities. Some mom’s might find relief in a co-op situation where they can take turns caring for the children and having a week off. If you have grandparents or other extended family available and willing this might be what works best especially when you and your spouse want to get away together.
One Final Thought
Open communication is key. If you don’t let those around know when you need something they can’t be there for you. As much as we sometimes wish that our spouses could read our minds, they can’t. If you don’t let them know you are tired, need time to do some planning, want to go to the store alone, or need a date night they might not think to offer. So never forget to be honest.
When I first started homeschooling my husband wasn’t sure it was such a good thing. This stemmed more from wanted to make sure I would be okay then doubt about my skill. Because of this I was often hesitant to express anything that might sound like a complaint. I tried to be super homeschool mom. Thankfully, I had some other moms who gave me a place to vent but also encouraged me to be honest about what was happening. It really made such a difference.
What every your needs develop a strategy that works to make sure that you needs get met. This will make you a happy and more effective homeschooler which is why I think “Awareness of Your Own Needs” the most important homeschool essential.
5 Days of Homeschooling Essentials
- Community Service – Monday, January 20
- Sense of Humor – Tuesday, January 21
- Willingness to Grow – Wednesday, January 22
- Know Which Battles to Fight – Thursday, January 23
- Awareness of Your Own Needs – Friday, January 24
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71. Mary @ Winecup Christian Homeschool
72. Jenni @ Conversaving
73. Meghan @ Quiet in the Chaos
74. Karen @ Tots and Me
75. Beth @ Weavings
76. Tawnee @ Adventures in Homeschooling
77. Karen @ My Harbor Lights – YOU ARE HERE!!!!
78. Amy @ Wildflower Ramblings
79. Kristi @ The Potter’s Hand Academy
80. Tara @ This Sweet Life
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