Know Which Battles to Fight
When I say battles I don’t mean physical violence but those moments when what you want doesn’t line up with what others might want. These can be battles with yourself, outsiders, spouse, or children. Or to put it simply those times when you seem to be butting heads.
Will It Matter in Five Years
I’ve heard others say, “consider if it will matter in 100 years.” but I think that’s taking it out a bit far. I mean honestly unless it effects my decedents in some way nothing I do now will matter that much in 100 years. But five years is a realistic number of years to look ahead too. What will in 5 years matter would of course depend on the age of your child. A lot of people would say that it is always important but some children can learn to read later than five and still turn out to be normal and well educated people. But will participating in a certain activity or completing every problem really matter down the road.
My Absolutes Won’t Match Yours
Another thing to consider when you interact with other homeschool families is that every family makes their own decisions about those absolutes. Some families may feel that if their children learn to type and can sign their name any further study of cursive is no essential. Other families might feel that cursive should be the first form of writing taught. For me I don’t really care if my children ever use cursive in their daily life but I do want them to learn the fundamentals of cursive writing for no other reason than their ability to read what someone else writes. A few years ago I didn’t think that much was necessary until my son asked me to print the letters I sent to him during Basic Training.
Never make something an absolute unless you are willing to back it up with everything you have. If you say something is absolute and you can be persuaded to change your mind than your word has less meaning the next time.
Avoid the Battle Altogether if at All Possible
I remember when my children were little reading that one of the best ways to avoid a battle is to offer your children a choice between two acceptable items. For example when they were toddlers I might say, “Do you want your milk in the blue cup or the red cup?” As they started doing more formal schooling I might say, “Do you want to start with math or reading?” Sometimes the feeling of being backed in corner makes a battle out of even the simplest things.
I know not everyone will agree with me but I always felt that by giving them choices when possible I would help them learn to make good choices for themselves. It would avoid unnecessary battles and it would make those times when something was an absolute my word would have a bigger impact.
5 Days of Homeschooling Essentials
- Community Service – Monday, January 20
- Sense of Humor – Tuesday, January 21
- Willingness to Grow – Wednesday, January 22
- Know Which Battles to Fight – Thursday, January 23
- Awareness of Your Own Needs – Friday, January 24
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