P is for proactive. I have given this a lot of thought this week because of something that came up. I realized that how I was handling the information I was given was reactive. I got upset, hurt, angry, frustrated, and defeated. All of these are negative reactions and certainly didn’t do a thing to help the situation or to do myself any good. What I also realized was unfortunately this is my go to style. I want to internalize and end up upset but with nothing to show for but my own negative feelings.
Not sure what created my ah-ha moment but I woke up and suddenly it became clear to me that I needed to take control of my own reaction. I analyzed if there was anything that I could do about the situation that was a positive action. The first proactive step I took was to stop and pray. I let go of the situation and feel at peace that however things turn out it will be the right thing for me and my family. Also, with a clear and calm attitude my “thinking cap” turned on and I had a clear idea of an action I could take that would also be proactive. I took the time to complete these steps.
I now know that I have done everything that I can do to ensure that the situation comes out the way I would like it too. But I also know because I surrendered the situation that even if the conclusion is not my first choice it will be the best choice.
It shouldn’t come as a surprise but I was amazed at how changing my attitude to view the situation in a proactive vs reactive way how much better I felt. It no longer felt like a burden, my peace and joy returned. I like to say I will never just react again but well I’m sure I will but I hope that the epiphany I had this week I hope that I can pull back and rethink my approach.